It’s been said that we tend to overreact and worry over the tiniest matter the moment we find out that we are about to become a parent.
As a mum of one, I certainly can attest to that. When I was pregnant with my daughter 2 years ago, I researched and analysed almost every pregnancy symptom that I was going through. I read up on the various pain relief methods for labour, and made notes on exactly how I’d like my baby to be cared for following her birth.
While I have now moved past that stage of obsessing over her daily routine, I have developed a whole new set of fears and worries as a parent. I realised that my little girl is growing up fast, and will move on from being totally dependent on me to being her own little person.
So, in a bid to help out other parents who might be feeling the same way, here’s a list of the five greatest parenting fears – and some tips to help you overcome them.
Parenting fear #1: Am I doing enough to help my child realise her potential?
As a parent, we constantly worry about your kids’ education. We know that there’s the pressure for them to be able to catch up with the competitive education system in Singapore – and we’ll do everything you can to prepare them for that.
So, from the first years, we try to stimulate their minds with educational toys and apps, and enrol them in various enrichment and tuition classes. In reality, previous reports from the Department of Statistics in 2012 show that families in Singapore spend $1.1 billion a year on tuition.
What you can do
Early childhood education experts agree that it’s not necessary to overwhelm your kids with hordes of educational toys or get stressed up over filling every hour of your child’s day with enrichment activities.
Paul Donahue, author of Parenting Without Fear, shared that constant parental hovering actually hinders kids from the development of independence, imagination and basic life skills. All these are crucial once your kids start school, so it might be a great idea to let them explore on their own during playtime.
Read the rest of the top parenting fears on the next few pages.